Ask a Guy: When a Guy Won’t Call You His Girlfriend
In fact, there is a big difference between being exclusive and being in a But, you're not quite boyfriend and girlfriend yet. and that's where it. He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and " Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official. will not do such thing to me in his life again, I was surprised but later accepted him back. Exclusive is not dating anyone else. Official relationship is when the relationship becomes serious. Or when you two decide to be together for.
Does he try to see you whenever he's free? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? Does he have as much fun on dates as you do? These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official. If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelmana licensed social worker and relationship expert at Pearl.
For example, if you'd like him to meet your parents, ask if he'd be up for going out to dinner with them, but let him know there's no harm if he's not quite ready for that yet. Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.
If you feel confident at this point that you want things to be serious, go ahead and tell him, Trespicio says. But if he still doesn't respond when you bring it up again, it may be time to rethink the relationship.
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If he had been uncomfortable with it it would have prompted a discussion, but he wasn't, and from then on we were boyfriend and girlfriend instead of telegraph and that-dude. So, if that is your complaint, that is how I would proceed. He is acting like your boyfriend. I would not push for a label. I can't tell from your question.
I'm still not entirely sure I get it, but it seems to be that you feel that you are boyfriend-girlfriend, in a relationship, you're both acting as if that's the case, but because this has not been explicitly stated it bugs you.
It doesn't need to be a big, heavy conversation.
Ask a Guy: When a Guy Won’t Call You His Girlfriend
It can just be along the lines of, "hey, seems to me like we've turned into boyfriend-girlfriend, and that's cool with me, how do you feel about it? You don't mention how you feel about him at all, you're obviously unsure of how he feels about you, you're already thinking about whether you should break up with him now before it gets worse later. It has been my experience that once someone starts having those thoughts, the end of the relationship is in sight. So I'd ask yourself if you want to stay in the relationship, regardless of what he feels.
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If you do, then yes, two months is really too early to tell without having the conversation. So have the conversation. I know actions speak louder than words, but after dating a few guys over the past year who seemed really keen on me at first and then balked at the discussion of commitment, I'd like to hear something to feel reassured. Though perhaps it's too soon to want this. This is also someone who 5 weeks ago told me they weren't sure if they wanted a relationship. If they haven't told me anything's changed, I feel like it'd be wrong of me to assume it has unless it was discussed.
I think I'm just going to go with the flow for now, and if something changes, have a conversation. Great advice so far, thank you everyone! That being said, you sound like a really intelligent year-old woman, and I'm not sure most year-old men are going to quite understand your ability to articulate your needs in a relationship and also respond in kind.
Just my experience, YMMV. A lot of guys act relationshippy all the time and then disappear after the girl tries to discuss commitment, it's as if they have no idea that being exclusive and calling every day and being invited to Christmas!!! So yes, actions are important, but so are words. If he is more or less a normal average guy then he should understand that the label is somewhat important in society.
I think it's worth asking again in a little while to see where he's at. If everything in his life is going according to plan job, health, apt, etcthen he should be thrilled to call you his girlfriend if he is into you for the foreseeable future. If he is still unsure about wanting to be with you then he is probably not that into you, and holding out for other options. Or he might not have his life together to have a girlfriend, but do you really want to wait for him to possibly be ready sometime in the unknown future?
Like you said, 4 months sounds reasonable. I really wish you the best, I hope this guy is on the same page as you: Me and my SO's conversation happened after I mentioned a friend of mine's "boo thang" in conversation, with his segway being "are we boo thangs?
Now, some things to think about… If you like the relationship for exactly what and where it is, then stay. If you are not satisfied with it, exactly as it is, then you should keep looking.
There are a multitude of reasons why he may not call you his girlfriend. Maybe he just got out of a relationship like in this case and does not want another commitment that ends in pain. Is He Losing Interest?
I think there are a few traps in this sort of situation. If it has not been working for you for a while, then your best bet is probably to lay your cards out on the table: